Hey Friends,
As I sat thinking about the topic for this blog post I was scrolling through social media hopeful that God would lead me in the right direction and he did just that. Scrolling through social media I came across video after video all different but all containing the same overall topic and that is it is funny and the cool thing to be a crazy, nagging, demanding wife to make your husband aggravated jumping through hoops to try to please you and just as he figures you out you changing your mind like a 2 year old toddler. There were tons of videos of men acting out imitations of their wife's behavior, videos of women giving advice to other women on how to get your man in line, as well as lots of products people were advertising with quotes of the same topic. There was one that apparently is going viral right now on tiktok a hoodie that says "Getting on my husband's last nerve" and women were so excited to get this hoodie and wear it. All I could think was WHY, why would you want to walk around displaying that you get on your husbands last nerve and are proud of it. When did that become the norm and something to brag about? I know I'm extremely old school as they would say but it used to be you bragged about how great of a wife you were. As I sit here contemplating where marriage took such a wrong turn I am reminded of some christian statistics I read about in the percentage that the kids will turn to God if the mom leads the family or if the dad leads the family to God the numbers were quite different and it was explaining that because of that the devil attacks men in their masculinity in our day and time. The devil is doing the same thing to the institute of marriage if he can dissolve the marriage he can dissolve the family. The devil is cunning and knows by making something seem better he can lead a majority to think and do it. So now its uncool to be in what used to be at one time a normal marriage.
I'm so thankful for my uncool abnormal marriage, my husband is my best friend. He's the first person I run to, to tell good news, share a funny joke, or turn to when I'm scared or upset and likewise I'm his best friend. We long to be in each other's company I count the hours till he comes home and likewise he rushes home to see me and he isn't interested in any activity that he can't bring his wife. Now before the Karens start interjecting that its unhealthy of course it doesn't always work out that way we both do plenty of things on our own but the longing is there to be together to share the experience together to just be in each other's presence. Another aspect of our uncool marriage is we don't keep score or assign responsibilities our home our children are ours not 50% mine 50% his 100% mine and 100% his we are a team so if I usually do the laundry because I've been a stay at home mom for years but its pilling up because I've been busy then he throws in a load if the grass is getting tall because he's been working extra then I hop on the lawnmower and take care of it because no one has jobs its our home and we are a team working together for the goals of our family and no one is resentful or aggravated or keeps score to throw it in the others face that they have done more. When it comes to doing things to make the other happy we have a rule that we established before we got married and we have held firm to it throughout the years my job is to completely worry about making him happy and helping him in anyway I can and don't think of myself and before the Karens start again his job is to completely worry about making me happy and helping me in anyway and not thinking of himself. We don't have to think of ourselves because that's the other persons job and when you have 2 people completely committed to just making the other happy you end up with 2 happy people. And sure there are days when my best isn't my usual best and there are days when his isn't either but as long as we are both giving our best everyday and of course remember the other trick never keeping score. I know many are you saying that sounds great but my other half doesn't think or operate that way and to that I say that's a conversation that should have been had before you got married but if you are already in it maybe it's time for a sit down heart to heart conversation.
What does the bible say about the christian wife we should be. I recently did a tiktok duet with a women who said it beautifully God created Eve for Adam not Adam for Eve the woman was created to be a helpmate. God prepares the woman to come into the life of the man to help him, bring value, and guide him for you both to serve God. Colossians 3:18 says wives submit to your husbands as it is fitting to the Lord. Ephesians 5:33 says let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 4:32 says be kind and compassionate and forgive each other in the same way the Lord forgave you. Hebrews 13:4 says give honor to marriage and remain faithful to one another. Proverbs 21:9 says better to live on a corner of a roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife. Proverbs 3:6 says in everything you do put God first. Summiting to our husbands it isn't necessarily referring to a strict sense of obedience because that's not really used in the word of God when it's relating to the wife's relationship with her husband but it really means allowing him to be the spiritual head of your household so not undermining his authority at every turn allowing him to fulfill his godly role that the Lord has given him in the home remember we are on the same team with the same goals one can't win and the other lose. I'm sure you've heard of being Proverbs 31 woman let's take a look at what that means. Proverbs 31:17 she is energetic and strong, a hard worker. Proverbs 31:20 she extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy. Proverbs 31:25 she has strength and dignity and no fear of the future. Proverbs 31:26 she speaks wise and gives instructions with kindness. Proverbs 3:27 she is not lazy. Proverbs 31:30 she fears the Lord. God gives us instructions not only on the kind of women we should be but also the kind of wives we should be all we have to do is read his word for directions.
I believe if christian women start being more vocal about their lives, how they raise their children, and how they interact in their marriage we can turn this trend back around. Here at Daughter of God Apparel we have a tee shirt and matching hoodie that says, "Blessed by God, Spoiled by my husband, Protected by Both" so share that instead of getting on his last nerve lets shout from the rooftops and on every social media page I have a great marriage with my best friend and I'm proud of it!!! I won't be ashamed of an uncool abnormal marriage because God has shown me in his word that I'm on the right path to not only a great marriage but being a strong, kind, loving, helpful, and truthful woman!!!
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